[Helpers] Chat Information Bulletins

[Mystress Angelique Serpent]

At 02:33 PM 4/20/2005, EarthAngel wrote:
>Here is what I worked out with the conversion of chat times.
>I am at a loss as to how else to set it up differently.
>I won't feel any distress if you have someone else that understands
>the time conversions better re- do the times.  I could not figure out
>how you could be available to those in Europe without holding
>a chat at Noon Canadian time.
>With Daylight savings time this also puts your Eastern chat times
>a little later than normal for the summer.
>I know you never listed your Canadian time before, but perhaps
>that will help you remember for sure what time to be there for
>the chat.
>I am leaving for Portland Oregon for 10 days.
>Since I will be gone I won't be able to post these for you when
>the Chat schedule starts next week.

   Post what for me? There is nothing to post. Where is the list of chat 
topics?

  I sent two clear examples of what I wanted, the previous chat schedule 
emails, and there is nothing like that anywhere in this post except the KSN 
events which were just copied and pasted from the samples I sent.

   Sue, all I really needed you to do was to take the sample emails, mix up 
the order of the chat topics, and paste in new dates and times according to 
the simple parameters I gave you. That's it. It is not rocket science.

   For someone who is not dyslexic with time zones like I am, the whole job 
should have taken about 20 minutes. Instead I have spent  hours responding 
to your many public and private emails, answering the same questions over 
and over, .... and indeed it would have been simpler to do it myself... You 
get to be right about that. Simpler, faster, and a whole lot less 
depressing and frustrating.

    I guess your role on this list, has been to model exactly the sort of 
behavior that made me give up on volunteers in the past, and become an 
overworked Marlboro woman.  Maybe the other helpers needed to witness it, 
to understand how I gave up because of people who say they want to help, 
when what they really want is my time and Shakti fired attention, even if 
it overclocks them into emotional hypersensitivity... which in turn takes 
more time to tend to... and in the end, the job does not get done and I 
have wasted 10x more time trying to get them to do the job, than it would 
have taken to do it myself.  It is frustrating, demoralizing, and depressing.
   That kind of passive aggression is just sabotage,  it is not a win-win.

    I give my time and attention explaining what is wanted, and then 
responding to many questions, some of which are repeated and some not 
related, and in the end... the original thing I asked for, does not get 
done and I have spent more time tending to the "helper" than it would have 
taken to do it myself. I really did not need a repeat of that story, I know 
it far too well. Maybe the list needed an example of what I meant in my tea 
room post? I dunno.

     I am frustrated with you... I'll get over it, surrender works.
     I am sure you are a very sweet person, (aside from the passive 
aggressive behavior, which by definition is unconscious) but I cannot deal 
with this Deja-vu.  As you have told me in private mail that NOW you 
realize you do not actually have time to help me, I am removing you from 
this list.
     I hope you have a great vacation!

>Hope all goes well with the revamping of your website
>and information.

   I am sure it will, because fortunately, Goddess has brought me some 
wonderful people who actually do what they say they will do, and with a 
minimum of fuss... Yay!! Thank you Goddess! Thank you Sachiko, Hillary, 
Percyval, Sandra Cantu, Rich, Gustaf, and Sandra Davis with the laser 
mind!! Bless you!